You can grieve the loss of an idea or dream that didn't come true. You can grieve your preconceived notions of what should or could have been. You may be a momma who needs fertility treatment to conceive, and you grieve the idea of a "normalized pregnancy". You may be a working mom who grieves the idea of staying home with her babies. You may be a stay at home mom grieving the working life you put on pause or gave up. You may be a dad surrounded by beautiful daughters grieving passing down legacies and the family name through a son. I grieve my "what if" or "could have been" life that I will now never live. And I am not alone.